Wednesday, 2 September 2009

A Change Is Afoot

There have been big decisions being made in the household this last couple of weeks, changes that will mean I have to redo the about me on this blog, I have decided to give up work to spend more time with the smurf. Therefore as of the end of the month, I will no longer be a working mum, well not in the paid employment sense anyway.

This is actually a very big thing for me as I have worked since smurf was 12 weeks old, but since moving back to Scotland at the beginning of the year I have found it a real struggle adjusting to the amount of time I actually get to spend with him. I blogged about this before, how my mum and dad are super babysitters, but its just not the same.

As daft as it now seems I though that taking a job working late afternoon and evenings would leave me free to spend all day with my smurf, but the reality of the situation was that I was leaving for work (1 hour car journey away) at 2.00pm and not home till almost midnight, which meant smurf was having to spend every week night sleeping at grannies house, definitely not ideal as far as either mummy or smurf were concerned.

Things really started to come to a head when hubby's job changed after a promotion which meant that he is usually away for 3 weeks at a time, this didn't really bother me too much as this was what he did when we first got together and first got married, but smurf has never had to deal with daddy being away for more than a day or so and found it really difficult, even asking if his daddy was ever coming back (broke my heart and brought a tear to hubby's eye), and also asked if we could get Scooby Doo to find his daddy as he was "lost".

With all this in mind I have staggered lots of days off when daddy is home and taken a couple of unpaid days, just to make sure we are spending time together and of course there are the weekends, but it just didn't seem to be enough and smurf was getting a bit clingy, something he has never been before.

The first thing I did when I started to notice this was enquire at work about changing hours to daytime, huh child friendly workplace....I don't think so, big no no as the hours I work are difficult to get trained people to supervise. apparently!! So it was those hours basically or nothing, so after much debate and wringing of hands, nothing is what it is going to have to be for the moment.

I have taken all of my holidays and as of now am a stay at home mum although I will still be classed as employed for another 5 weeks.

Smurf is loving it, I am loving it and I am sure my mum and dad are loving the peace, I will start to look into doing something part time in a few weeks but for the moment I am just going to savour some "Quality" time with my smurf.


  1. Yay for quality time.

    I'm considering not going back after maternity leave although in reality I don;t know if we can afford it.

  2. I know its difficult to manage sometimes on one salary,I know I am lucky that we should be able to manage, I am sure if we had still been living in the midlands it may have been a different story.

  3. I have only just started back at work and littlest girl is two, I only do three short days and don't think I could manage any more at all! Enjoy your new time together with smurf luv Karen x

  4. Good for you :)

    I am really hoping to not go back to work next year - still trying to work out the financial side of it all, but I'm keeping everything crossed - I don't want to leave the little dude with anyone else!!

    Hope it all goes well for you xx

  5. Welcome to the stay at home mum club! I hope you enjoy spending more time with Smurf. We really need a second income but if I worked we'd have to pay for two children in nursery so it would be hardly worth our while. We've learnt to go without a few things (holidays mainly!). It won't be long before he's grown up and at school and you'll have more time to yourself then. Hope you enjoy it!

  6. Very Bored Housewife.... thanks I am looking forward to it.

    Mum Gone Mad.....I wouldn't mind part time just difficult to find at company would not agree to it.

    Miss Leslieanne........Hope it works out for you too,the financial stuff is always the fly in the ointment.

    Whistlejacket....I am sure we will end up missing out on some stuff too, but I think it will be worth it, and its true childcare is so expensive, its laughable.

  7. Awwwww. Somebody sounds like she's looking forward to being a stay at home Mum xx

    P.S. Did you get my email about posting etc

  8. I'd somehow known for years that I didn't want to go back to work until my children were at school. Financially we're worse off of course, but we're keeping our heads above water at the moment.
    I've only had one moment in two years, when they were both screaming, that it crossed my mind that I could go back to work if I wanted!
    I really hope you enjoy spending more time with Smurf x

  9. Well done'll love it! Have just sent you an award and something to do to while away the hours when you're not at work. ;-)

  10. Sandy .....I didn't really want to go back to work either but at the time we were running our own business and I needed to. Your right financially we will be worse off also but already I am seeing the benefits for smurf.

    Andrea...thanks I am already loving it ..despite having a terrible ear infection this week...should have done it ages ago!!! Thanks for the award.